Looking for a side guy

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Side Chick Day is exactly what it sounds like: a day for dudes to celebrate their dirty little secrets, which they tend to have more of than women. About 20 percent of men admit to cheating compared to 13 percent of women, according to the U. General Social Survey. In honor of their special day, I spoke to three of such dudes about their very different experiences of being the Other Man, or manstress, if you will.

David, 31, podcast host, Brooklyn: It had been a few years since we broke up, but I knew she had a boyfriend because we were still friends on Facebook. She was getting her needs met emotionally just not physically, so I was just kind of mail-order dick. I always, too, try to bring up that there are other options than just straight-up cheating, like an open relationship.

Being the other man has taught me that women are better at cheating — mostly because the consequences are different. He may get temporarily canceled by a few female friends, but they usually come back around.

Looking for a side guy

Women, on the other hand, get judged way more harshly for it — losing friends, family and sometimes work in the process. Basically, then, if you know the punishment is going to be worse, you become a better thief. Philip, 61, actor, Newfoundland: I was performing at a drama festival at the time. Tess was there in the audience with her sister, just visiting for the weekend, and went to the bar where we were all hanging out after the show.

She was very enigmatic to me. We got to the beach around one in the morning and talked until the sun came up. She told me right away that she was married and had a daughter. I told her about my failed relationship. Her marriage was basically dead. Afterward, she dropped me off at rehearsal, and I thought that was it. I went early for a sound check and there she was, sitting at the bar.

It was the most amazing feeling. That was exactly what was wrong with me for those two weeks, too. It was kismet, and moments between us have been like that ever since. But she had so much integrity — she was going to tell her husband whether I pursued her or not. He was upset for a few hours, but by the next day, he came around.

Looking for a side guy

She bought a smaller house here for her husband and daughter and found him a better engineering job. Then she moved in with me. We were together from that point on. The crazy thing is, not long after, I became friends with her husband. Her daughter took right to me from the moment we met.

Looking for a side guy

We actually met on the soccer field; we were all there to watch her play. Her family, however, disowned her for six months. Eventually, though, they made peace with it. They know Tess is a special person.

Looking for a side guy

And they know I put her on a pedestal. They could see me serenading her and being romantic all the time. One night when I was around 35, I was dancing at a club called Cowboys. I approached Mary, who was out with her friend Debbie, to ask her to dance. It just took off from there. When we got there, one thing led to another, and nature took its course, so to speak. We saw each other a few more times after that. Then there was another woman many years later. Again, I was out country-western dancing.

She was a pretty good dancer, and sure enough, we ended up in the backseat of my car. I invited her to my apartment to watch football, but after about two hours she had to go. Well, shitI thought, I did it again. That, though, was the last I ever saw of her.

A few months later, I met another married woman who was separated from her husband. But it turned out that she was just using me for a physical thing. I broke it off because I felt like a piece of meat. To that end, a big part of being the other man was desperation on my part.

I was basically a street kid from the age of My parents were drug addicts and never around. And they chose to put their affairs with me over those husbands and families. That was very attractive to me. It also got me over the relationship hump — no pun intended. Because it helped me figure out that I wanted a family, too. Today, I have 33 years invested in my current marriage and a daughter. Lauren Vinopal is a writer and stand-up comedian based out of New York City, who writes mostly about health, science and men. Who, though, are these Side Dudes? So looking back, I have no regrets whatsoever.

Lauren Vinopal Lauren Vinopal is a writer and stand-up comedian based out of New York City, who writes mostly about health, science and men. Features Boys Will Be Boys? More Stories from MEL.

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Confessions of a Side Dude